Thursday, October 20, 2011

The Truth Will Set You Free

Note: I started this on Tuesday and never finished it. Yesterday I saw it and thought, well I don't need to post it as a PYHO because I had more on my heart at the time. But God works in mysterious ways and lead me to his word and gave me the push to write on this again. 

I know it's not Wednesday but I need a Pour Your Heart Out today. Why can't life be drama free? Why does drama have to find it's way into my life and try to tear it down? Why can't people keep their problems to themselves and not drag others in it?

We've separated ourselves from the friends that have created issues in our life. Not trying to be arrogant and say that we're better than anyone else, but if friends don't fit your lifestyle or the lifestyle you're trying to live, then you start distancing yourself. If you try to consciously do it, it is hard. And unconsciously we have found ourselves on the other side of the fence. The place where I want to be.

The more you involve yourself in other activities that don't include those people and don't join in what they're doing, the less interaction you have with them. Eventually they stop asking and it gets easier.

But the problem is when you are still friends with some of the people from your past. They are still linked to it. And you get yourself involved in the drama again without even trying.

I don't need that stress.

I worked so hard to distance myself from it. Life has been good. It's been quiet and enjoyable. No worries about who said what or did what.

You can't have relationships with people when it's based on nothing.

There once was a time when I enjoyed hanging out with them. Then I got a closer look into what kind of life they were leading. I realized that they weren't who I thought they were and the more I have tried to be a better mother, wife and Christian, I knew that I needed to separate myself from that.

I'm trying to find the reason that God has put me in this place. What is HIS purpose? Is it my lesson to learn? Or am I supposed to teach the lesson? I have yet to figure that out.

I feel like I'm caught in the middle without even trying. Gossip is a sin. And what I am involved in could be considered gossip even though what I have been discussing is the TRUTH. The truth about some one else that they cannot realize and are denying. And with their denying they are speaking non truths.About themselves and about others.

As much as I want to separate myself and walk away, as a good Christian I want to stand by their side until they see the light. The truth will see you free. John 8:32

 Who will this truth set free? Does it release the burden that those who have carried it on their hearts for so long? Maybe for yet a moment. But it has now been replaced with heartache. 

Ephesians 5:6-13 says Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.Therefore do not become partners with them; for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light  (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret.


Queen Bee said...

Oh honey! I'm sorry you find yourself in the middle of drama. It sucks! We too have had to go through the difficult path of separating from people that aren't bringing us up but down. It's a hard path to take and sadly it's difficult to completely break free. These people seem to always be around...through others in your life seems to be the common place. 
I hope you find the answers you seek. They are difficult questions and sadly the answer isn't always clear. You have to protect yourself and do what you know in your heart is right. We aren't always able to teach the lessons we hope too and sometimes have to flee the situation! I love you and know that your heart is in the right place! Hang in there as you seek the answers. 

Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

That's a really tough spot to be in.  I hope time, prayer and reflection help you know what to do.

Kristen said...

Such a rough road, Tiffany. I'm sorry your on it! You are strong, smart woman though and I believe you will find the right way to handle it without hurting anyone. If you do...its only because whom ever it is can't see that you are only trying to help by being honest.

Missy | Literal mom said...

We had to distance ourselves from some adult friends too.  It wasn't easy, but it made things sooo much better for us.  I'm glad you've had the courage to do it.

shellthings said...

It's really hard to be in a situation like that. Stay strong!

Kristen said...

Hey Tiffany,
I just wanted to check on you and see how things are going. Let me know if you need anything!