Wednesday, May 2, 2012

PYHO: Opinions are like.....



We didn't tell anyone we were trying. Well, except for one couple. They knew. But no one else knew.
It's not something you share with everyone.

After we found out that we were indeed pregnant with baby #3, we were really excited. Knowing the risks of telling people and something happening, we decided to keep the news to ourselves and a few close friends.

Telling family was not an option yet,just in case. Family takes things harder and friends hold you up when things fall. We waited until the first appointment when the baby should have been 8 weeks along. The ultrasound confirmed that we were having "a baby" ( I say that because hubs has been fearing twins) but we were 6 weeks and five days along.

This was a bummer. We were hoping to tell more people but since we were not as far along, we had to wait longer. The waiting is very hard.

The longer I waited, the more nervous I got about telling certain people. I know it shouldn't matter, because the choice of how many children I want is MY CHOICE. And my husband's of course. I didn't know how the news would be received.

A year ago, when in conversation with a friend of mine who has more children than I do and was expressing her interest in having more, my mother in law stated (looking at me) " you don't need anymore kids." Did I hear her right? Was she telling me what was right for me?

So I wasn't looking forward to telling her and I think my husband knew it. So she was the last parent we told about the new baby coming. She really shocked me. My husband had to hold the phone back a foot or so from his ear. She was so excited and squealing about another grand child. Wow.

I am the first person that will tell you, I don't care what other people think. I really try not to let other people's opinions get to me. Most of all, strangers opinions. But deep inside, it stirs me up when people express their opinions to me.

Right now, I'm not showing so no one would know that I'm pregnant anyways. So I'm safe from other peoples problems. Unless of course, my son who is a proud BIG Brother to be might tell you that there is a baby in there.

I really don't want to hear the obtuse or intrusive opinions from other people. I'm dealing with questions now. Since you already have one of each, which sex do you prefer?

I don't care! Really! I want a healthy child. I'm the mother to a daughter and a son, I know what both worlds could bring. There are pros and cons to raising each gender. And I could honestly end up with a sassy, prissy little princess girl. Unlike Miss K completely. Or I could get an ultra sensitive boy, who wears his emotions on his sleeve. Unlike my rough and tough Little E.

I'm not worried about trivial things like that. The worst part that since I have one of each, people assume that you are done having children. As if that is a guideline. Really?





16 comments:

shellthings said...

CONGRATS!!!!!! 

Anna Worden said...

Congratulations!!!

tracy said...

Congratulations! I think 3 kids sounds dreamy. :)

angelshrout said...

Congratulations hun..

Carolyn (Hooked and Happy) said...

Congratulations!

This is the second post about having #3 I've read ... is the universe trying to tell me something :)
I know if I did have a third, people would ask if I wanted a boy, since I have 2 girls. It's like I said to Shell - people need filters.

Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

I often wonder what it is about certain life events that make people lose their filter and comment with anything other than, "Congratulations!"

Blond Duck said...

We're trying to get pregnant, and people range from "Why" to "You're doing something wrong."  They tell me I'm not relaxed or not doing it right (um, ok) to I'm infertile and need IVF...so I told my husband when we do get pregnant, I'm not telling anyone! 

Jenn Colgan said...

First of all - congrats on baby #3!! As a fairly new mom of 3, I can say that it's fun! Crazy - but fun! lol
I also hate that I let people's opinions get to me. It's hard not to, especially when they're family. But it just means you care about them; they are obviously important people to you.

CrazyKindofMom said...

I've been "warned" by several moms of three, they say #3 is the hardest. I certainly hope not, but I can say without that one here yet, child #2 has been the angel. So this one is either going to be even more so or worse. lol!! Crossing fingers and praying that I survive.

CrazyKindofMom said...

Why is it that everyone is an "expert" on whatever is going on with you. It is annoying. You remind me of this show I watched last night on OWN. It's called Secretly Pregnant. Some of the stories make sense to me.

CrazyKindofMom said...

Seriously! Keep it simple if you can't say something nice. What happened to that?

CrazyKindofMom said...

Amen to that! People ask me which gender I prefer, since I have a boy and a girl. I really don't care which I get-honest. I'm happy with whatever God wants me to have.

CrazyKindofMom said...

Thanks friend! :)

CrazyKindofMom said...

Awww, you're so sweet! Thank you!

CrazyKindofMom said...

Thank you!

CrazyKindofMom said...

Thank you!!!